On Sunday night we had an intriguing dialogue with Rev. Lillian Daniel, Rabbi Evan Moffic, Fr. Michael Sparough, Niala Boodhoo, and Sr. Danielle Dwyer at Mayer Kaplan JCC in Skokie. The conversation took an interesting turn when two of the panelists seemed to have a disagreement about whether or not we have the right to hate.
Hate is a tricky thing. It comes naturally and it is easier to start hating than it is to stop. But the real crux of the question was do we have the right to feel hate, or to choose it and act on it.
Shylock chooses to act on his hate and in the end, he is the one who loses the most. He had a right to his hate, his feelings are justified, but for him, and for us, to choose to stay in hate is a choice for our own destruction. As Fr. Matt Malone quoted Richard Nixon on a New York panel, “Always remember, others may hate you. But those who hate you don’t win unless you hate them. And then you destroy yourself.”